Former Big Brother Nigeria contestant, Vanessa Williams better known as Vandora, has said it’s only proper for her boyfriend to seek her approval before they have sex, regardless of the fact that they are in a relationship or may have been intimate before.
It should be recalled that when she was still in the Big Brother house, Vandora had revealed that her ex-boyfriend raped her repeatedly by having sex with her while she was asleep and without her consent.
In a recent interview, she stated
“When I made that comment about my ex in the house, rape had just been ‘redefined’ and based on what we were told, I believed that what my former partner did could be termed as rape.
It was actually a long time ago that I dated the person in question and the relationship had ended as of the time I made that comment. As a matter of fact, I’ve been in my present relationship for over five years. However, at that time, I didn’t really know the gravity of what I said.
“But it doesn’t matter that we were in a relationship; what the guy did was actually rape. If anyboy is taking you against your will, it is rape, whether you’re in a relationship or not.
My partner has to seek permission before we get intimate because I may not want to at that time. It doesn’t count even if we had been intimate before then. Rape is actually a big deal, and so far sex is not consensual, it is wrong.”